Numb to life: how to reconnect

We’ve layered up stories through life that make us numb, disconnecting us from life and from our deeper wisdom and intuition. And we can return to connection. We can de-layer the stories.

Helen Amery


Our nose stops smelling when we’ve been sniffing the same thing after a while.

Our ears stop hearing the background noise of traffic and planes.

Our eyes stop seeing the notices on the board which haven’t been changed for a few weeks.

Our system stops noticing the level of stress it has running through it.

With all these sensory experiences, our body adapts to a new normal. Making us stop noticing whatever it is that’s there — it’s not an obvious threat, it doesn’t require our attention so we stop tuning into it. It’s as though it disappears. As though it isn’t there.

But it is.

These shifts to ‘new normals’ block our ability to tune into what’s happening right now in our direct experience and limits our connection to intuition.

In theory, the ignoring of repeated information is a smart design to stay vigilant to what’s new and different, and therefore stay alive. Not so smart when we’ve continued using that system way past the application it was originally designed for!

The repetitive over-use of this ignoring-system layers ‘new normal’ upon ‘new normal’, stopping us noticing what’s going on, drowning out or distorting the messages the system beyond our intellect is telling us.

How much we miss when that becomes our reality.

You know that thing when you’ve been on holiday, or even if you’ve just sat with a coach for an hour or two, and afterwards you say “wow! I didn’t realise how wound up I was”. That is this.

In those moments the quieter voice gets through. The holiday-light-bulb-moments happen. The clarity of what to do next is stark.

This is an indication that what has become your normal is a busy mind. The whirring mind and body was being ignored but it hadn’t gone away. You were numb.

But given half a chance our system is always aiming to return us to our base-level, fundamental OK-ness. The place of a quieter mind and greater clarity.



Helen Amery

Creating a life of alignment, with peace, love and joy.